Thursday, November 29, 2012

Have Fun. Make Money. Change the World.





“Smile, breathe, go slowly.”
Thich Nhat Hanh


Life flies by. And the older we get the faster it seems to go.

There never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything done. Let alone squeek out a moment of peace for ourselves.

So with all of responsibilities and obligations is there something that can help us?

What can we do to not feel overwhelmed, overworked, or overtired?

Maybe it’s time for a different approach to life.


 

Source:
3 Keys To An Awesome Life From A Zen Master | Success For Life - Have Fun. Make Money. Change the World.

 Link:
http://ianpaulmarshall.com/3-keys-to-an-awesome-life-from-a-zen-master/




Thursday, October 25, 2012

How to be Happy in 12 Simple Steps


By SONJA LYUBOMIRSKY






STEP 1 - Show gratitude 

(* There's a lot more to gratitude than saying "thank you." Emerging research shows that people who are consistently grateful are happier, more energetic and hopeful, more forgiving and less materialistic. Gratitude needs to be practised daily because it doesn't necessarily come naturally.)


STEP 2 - Cultivate Optimism


STEP 3 - Avoid overthinking and social comparison

(* Many of us believe that when we feel down we should try to focus inwardly to attain self-insight and find solutions to our problems. But numerous studies have shown that overthinking sustains or worsens sadness.)


STEP 4 - Practice kindnessChewbaaka and Koya



STEP 5 - Nurture social relationships


STEP 6 - Develop coping skills


STEP 7 - Learn to forgive 

(* Forgiveness is not the same thing as reconciliation, pardoning or condoning. Nor is it a denial of your own hurt. Forgiveness is a shift in thinking and something that you do for yourself and not for the person who has harmed you. Research confirms that clinging to bitterness or hate harms you more than the object of your hatred. Forgiving people are less likely to be hostile, depressed, anxious or neurotic.


* Forgive yourself for past wrongs. Recognising that you too can be a transgressor will make you more empathetic to others. )


STEP 8 - Find more flow

(* "Flow" was a phrase coined by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in the 1960s. It means you are totally immersed in what you are doing and unaware of yourself. Happy people have the capacity to enjoy their lives even when their material conditions are lacking and even when many of their goals have not been reached.)


STEP 9 - Savour the day



STEP 10 - Commit to your goals 

(* People who strive for something personally significant, whether it's learning a new craft or changing careers, are far happier than those who don't have strong dreams or aspirations. Working towards a goal is more important to wellbeing than its attainment.)


STEP 11 - Take care of your soul

 (* A growing body of psychological research suggests that religious people are happier, healthier and recover better after traumas than nonreligious people. ...

* Find the sacred in ordinary life ...)

STEP 12 - Take care of your body

"The How of Happiness" Sonja Lyubomirsky - TalkRational



Sonja Lyubomirsky

link: http://lyubomirsky.socialpsychology.org/




 

Saturday, September 15, 2012

You are the master of your fate and you create your own happiness.


If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?  And if I am only for myself, then what am I?  And if not now, when?

- Hillel the Elder, 1st Century B.C.
 


 It's never the events that happen to us that make us disturbed, but our view of them.
Epictetus, 1st Century A.D.


Happiness and misery depend as much on temperament as on fortune.
- Francois de la Rochefoucauld, 17th Century


Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
- Abe Lincoln


Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.
- Leo Tolstoy


 To be in Hell is to drift; to be in Heaven is to steer.
- Geo. B. Shaw


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It is not that someone else is preventing you from living happily;
You yourself do not know what you want.  Rather than admit this,    
you pretend that someone is keeping you from excercising your liberty.
Who is this?  It is yourself.
- Thomas Merton, 1961

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I am resposible for the achievement of my desires.
I am responsible for my choices and acktions...
I am responsible for my personal happiness.
- Dr. Nathaniel Branden


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"I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have."

- Thomas Jefferson

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If you think you're free, there's no escape possible.

- Ram Dass

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Happiness is something you can work at.  It's a matter of identifying the things you do that get in the way of happiness,  and figuring out what positive activities you can do everyday to augment it.

- David Lykken, U of Minnesota

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Depressed people are caught in a  feedback loop in which distorted thoughts cause negative feelings, which then distort feelings further.

You can break the cycle by changing the thoughts.

A big part of cognitive therapy is training clients to catch the thoughts and  distortions and then find alternative and more accurate ways of thinking.


Over many weeks,the client's thoughts become more realistic.  The feedback loop is broken and the client's anxiety or depression abates.



- Johnathan Haidt, Psychologist and Happiness Researcher


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Friday, August 10, 2012

Define Success to properly set your compass on your single definite purpose

I found one day in school a boy of medium size ill-treating a smaller boy. I expostulated, but he replied: The bigs hit me, so I hit the babies; that's fair. In these words he epitomized the history of the human race.
- Bertrand Russell

“All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure. ”
― Mark Twain
 
"In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins
- not by strength but by perseverance."
- H. Jackson Brown 
 “Don't mistake activity with achievement.”
― John Wooden
 “Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.”
― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

 
“Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

“I want to do it because I want to do it. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be but a challenge to others.”
― Amelia Earhart

“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen

Friday, June 29, 2012

Find Your Focus

All beings are flowers
blossoming
In a blossoming universe.

by Soen Nakagawa
 As every divided kingdom falls, so every mind divided between many studies confounds and saps itself.
- Leonardo Davinci


A small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules.
-Anthony Trollope



7 Effective Habits of ADDults

1. Do what you're good at

2. Delegate what you're bad at

3. Connect your energy to a creative outlet

4. get "well enough" organized to achieve your goals

5. Take advice from people you trust

6. Keep in touch with a few close friends

7. Keep a positive outlook in making decisions and running your life.




Thursday, June 28, 2012

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

Source:

https://www.writers-online.co.uk/Home-Page.aspx




How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

Published on 28/09/2011

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel  
Your covering letter has made such a good impression that your publisher, agent or editor of choice has decided to take a closer look at your novel, but the first thing they'll look at is your synopsis or, for a non-fiction book, your book proposal. You already have some of their attention, but now you need to hold it so they want to find out more. Maintain that excellent first impression by delivering a synopsis the publisher just cannot resist.

So how do you start? Let’s take a look at what you should include. ‘The synopsis is the primary tool for fiction writers to inspire agents and publishers to read their manuscript,’ says professional publishing consultant Julia McCutchen. ‘Always write the synopsis in the present tense, and tell the whole story – including the ending.’

Fiction synopsis checklist
Julia advises you to answer the following key questions in your synopsis
• What is the story about?
• Who is/are the main character(s) and brief summary of the issue(s) they are facing
• What are they feeling?
• What’s driving them?
• Why are they acting in a certain way?
• What’s standing in their way?
• What is the setting, if appropriate, and include a taste of it

‘Include some dialogue to bring your synopsis alive but only if it feels appropriate,’ adds Julia. ‘Build excitement as you near the end by using shorter sentences and paragraphs.’

Your synopsis should be written in the third person. ‘I start in the same place as the story (not giving background to the main character or other characters) and summarise the main plot points and characters,’ says author Tamsyn Murray. ‘The synopsis should try to capture something of the writer’s voice – mine try to be fairly witty.’

Stewart Ferris, author and co-founder of Summersdale Publishers, says one paragraph per chapter is usually adequate, but obviously this depends on the length of your chapters. ‘As long as the synopsis fills one or two pages and no more then it’s the right length,’ he advises. ‘It’s not easy to distil your masterpiece down to a few hundred words unless you’re clear in your mind as to what the important themes and concepts are. Leave out all unnecessary detail and tantalise the editor with questions and hints that make them want to read the whole book to find out more.’

If you find it difficult to compile your synopsis, remember that even seasoned authors find it hard. ‘I’d find it easier to write a whole 100,000 word novel than do a synopsis,’ says Carole Matthews, an internationally bestselling author of numerous romantic comedy novels. However she has the following advice to make the process easier: ‘Make your synopsis as concise as possible. Outline the main story – all of it – including main conflict points. And don’t get side-tracked by sub-plots.’

Non-fiction book proposal checklist
For those who are submitting non-fiction manuscripts, the synopsis is replaced with a book proposal, as it includes many different sections of information.

Julia McCutchen advises that your non-fiction book proposal should include:
• title page (just title, subtitle and contact details)
• summary of content
• chapter outlines
• author details
• sales, marketing and promotional information
• length, specifications and delivery date (ie how long the finished manuscript will be, if there are any illustrations and when it will be delivered)
Submit your book proposal with your covering letter and sample chapters.  


  

 



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    Monday, June 25, 2012

    Robbie Burns: To A Mouse

    A sculpture of a mouse in the garden of the Robert Burns Birthplace Museum, Alloway
     
     
    TO A MOUSE
    ON TURNING HER UP IN HER NEST WITH THE PLOUGH, NOVEMBER, 1785
    by: Robert Burns (1759-1796)
        I
         
        EE, sleekit, cowrin, tim'rous beastie,
        Oh, what a panic's in thy breastie!
        Thou need na start awa sae hasty,
        Wi' bickering brattle!
        I was be laith to rin an' chase thee,
        Wi' murd'ring pattle!
         
        II
         
        I'm truly sorry man's dominion
        Has broken Nature's social union,
        An' justifies that ill opinion
        Which makes thee startle
        At me, thy poor, earth-born companion
        An' fellow-mortal!
         
        III
         
        I doubt na, whyles, but thou may thieve;
        What then? poor beastie, thou maun live!
        A daimen-icker in a thrave
        'S a sma' request;
        I'll get a blessin wi' the lave,
        And never miss't!
         
        IV
         
        Thy wee-bit housie, too, in ruin!
        Its silly wa's the win's are strewin!
        An' naething, now, to big a new ane,
        O' foggage green!
        An' bleak December's winds ensuin,
        Baith snell an' keen!
         
        V
         
        Thou saw the fields laid bare an' waste,
        An' weary winter comin fast,
        An' cozie here, beneath the blast,
        Thou thought to dwell,
        Till crash! the cruel coulter past
        Out thro' thy cell.
         
        VI
         
        That wee bit heap o' leaves an stibble,
        Has cost thee mony a weary nibble!
        Now thou's turn'd out, for a' thy trouble,
        But house or hald,
        To thole the winter's sleety dribble,
        An' cranreuch cauld!
         
        VII
         
        But, Mousie, thou art no thy lane,
        In proving foresight may be vain:
        The best-laid schemes o' mice an' men
        Gang aft a-gley,
        An' lea'e us nought but grief an' pain,
        For promis'd joy!
         
        VIII
         
        Still thou art blest, compared wi' me!
        The present only toucheth thee:
        But och! I backward cast my e'e,
        On prospects drear!
        An' forward, tho' I cannot see,
        I guess an' fear!
    "To a Mouse" is reprinted from English Poems. Ed. Edward Chauncey Baldwin & Harry G. Paul. New York: American Book Company, 1908.

     Source:
     http://www.poetry-archive.com/b/to_a_mouse.html



     Portrait of Robert Burns 
     Robert Burns by Alexander Nasmyth
    (By permission of the National Galleries of Scotland) 


    Wednesday, March 28, 2012

    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky | Fast Company

    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky | Fast Company


    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky

    BY Danielle Sacks | 06-01-2010 | 5:48 PM

    Scott Belsky doesn't exactly advertise that he's the grandson of test-prep king Stanley Kaplan, but he has a lot in common with the man who launched a $4 billion industry by tutoring immigrants for the SAT. "He always used this term 'meritocracy,' " Belsky recalls. "He was always hoping the smartest people would go to college rather than the people who had the connections and wealth."


    Scott Belsky of Behance at Mashable Connect 2011 - YouTube

    Scott Belsky of Behance at Mashable Connect 2011 - YouTube

    Tuesday, March 27, 2012

    How-to Write a Great Business Vision Statement - YouTube

    How-to Write a Great Business Vision Statement - YouTube


    ploaded by alkamae on Feb 27, 2009

    Follow these guidelines, and use the vision statement formula to perfectly articulate your dream, your passion, and the direction you envision for your business.
    Category:

    Howto & Style

    Kevin Spacey on Being Successful

    Kevin Spacey on Being Successful - YouTube



    Being a big fan of Kevin Spacey it was a happy moment finding this video.

    Sustainable Development Is A Matter Of Human Decency: Jeffrey Sachs



    Ensuring Sustainable Development Is A Matter Of Human Decency: Jeffrey Sachs | Economy Watch






    Sustainable development means inclusive economic growth that protects the earth’s vital resources. Yet achieving it will be a matter not only of technology, market incentives, and appropriate regulations; we must embrace sustainable development as a common commitment to decency for all human beings, today and in the future.





    Photo Credit: Jonathan Kos-Read



    Are We The Cause Of Our Own Destruction?



    ADDIS ABABA – Sustainable development means achieving economic growth that is widely shared and that protects the earth’s vital resources. Our current global economy, however, is not sustainable, with more than one billion people left behind by economic progress and the earth’s environment suffering terrible damage from human activity. Sustainable development requires mobilizing new technologies that are guided by shared social values.

    United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon has rightly declared sustainable development to be at the top of the global agenda. We have entered a dangerous period in which a huge and growing population, combined with rapid economic growth, now threatens to have a catastrophic impact on the earth’s climate, biodiversity, and fresh-water supplies.


    Scientists call this new period the Anthropocene – in which human beings have become the main causes of the earth’s physical and biological changes.


    The Secretary-General’s Global Sustainability Panel has issued a new report that outlines a framework for sustainable development. The GSP rightly notes that sustainable development has three pillars: ending extreme poverty; ensuring that prosperity is shared by all, including women, youth, and minorities; and protecting the natural environment. These can be termed the economic, social, and environmental pillars of sustainable development, or, more simply, the “triple bottom line” of sustainable development.

    The GSP has called for world leaders to adopt a new set of Sustainable Development Goals, or SDGs, that will help to shape global policies and actions after the 2015 target date for achieving the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs). Whereas the MDGs focus on reducing extreme poverty, the SDGs will focus on all three pillars of sustainable development: ending extreme poverty, sharing the benefits of economic development for all of society, and protecting the Earth.

    It is, of course, one thing to set SDGs and quite another to achieve them. The problem can be seen by looking at one key challenge: climate change. Today, there are seven billion people on the planet, and each one, on average, is responsible for the release each year of a bit more than four tons of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere. This CO2 is emitted when we burn coal, oil, and gas to produce electricity, drive our cars, or heat our homes. All told, humans emit roughly 30 billion tons of CO2 per year into the atmosphere, enough to change the climate sharply within a few decades.

    By 2050, there will most likely be more than nine billion people. If these people are richer than people today (and therefore using more energy per person), total emissions worldwide could double or even triple. This is the great dilemma: we need to emit less CO2, but we are on a global path to emit much more.

    We should care about that scenario, because remaining on a path of rising global emissions is almost certain to cause havoc and suffering for billions of people as they are hit by a torrent of droughts, heat waves, hurricanes, and more. We have already experienced the onset of this misery in recent years, with a spate of devastating famines, floods, and other climate-related disasters.

    So, how can the world’s people – especially its poor people – benefit from more electricity and more access to modern transportation, but in a way that saves the planet rather than destroys it? The truth is that we can’t – unless we improve dramatically the technologies that we use.

    We need to use energy far more wisely while shifting from fossil fuels to low-carbon energy sources. Such decisive improvements are certainly possible and economically realistic.

    Consider the energy inefficiency of an automobile, for example. We currently move around 1,000 to 2,000 kilograms of machinery to transport only one or just a few people, each weighing perhaps 75 kilograms (165 lbs.). And we do so using an internal combustion engine that utilizes only a small part of the energy released by burning the gasoline. Most of the energy is lost as waste heat.

    We could therefore achieve huge reductions in CO2 emissions by converting to small, lightweight, battery-powered vehicles running on highly efficient electric motors and charged by a low-carbon energy source such as solar power. Even better, by shifting to electric vehicles, we would be able to use cutting-edge information technology to make them smart – even smart enough to drive themselves using advanced data-processing and positioning systems.


    The benefits of information and communications technologies can be found in every area of human activity: better farming using GPS and micro-dosing of fertilizers; precision manufacturing; buildings that know how to economize on energy use; and, of course, the transformative, distance-erasing power of the Internet. Mobile broadband is already connecting even the most distant villages in rural Africa and India, thereby cutting down significantly on the need for travel.

    Banking is now done by phone, and so, too, is a growing range of medical diagnostics. Electronic books are beamed directly to handheld devices, without the need for bookshops, travel, and the pulp and paper of physical books. Education is increasingly online as well, and will soon enable students everywhere to receive first-rate instruction at almost a zero “marginal” cost for enrolling another student.

    Yet getting from here to sustainable development will not just be a matter of technology. It will also be a matter of market incentives, government regulations, and public support for research and development. But, even more fundamental than policies and governance will be the challenge of values. We must understand our shared fate, and embrace sustainable development as a common commitment to decency for all human beings, today and in the future.

    By Jeffrey D. Sachs



    Jeffrey D. Sachs is a Professor of Economics and the Director of the Earth Institute at Columbia University. He is also a Special Adviser to the United Nations Secretary-General on the Millennium Development Goals, as well as being the founder and co-President of the Millennium Promise Alliance, a nonprofit organization dedicated to ending extreme poverty and hunger. Sachs has authored numerous books, including The End of Poverty and Common Wealth. In 2004 and 2005, He was named among Time Magazine's "100 Most Influential People in the World”.
     






    Copyright: Project-Syndicate, 2012


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    Scott Belsky- Making Ideas Happen - YouTube

    Scott Belsky- Making Ideas Happen - YouTube



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    by on Mar 19, 2010
    Part 3 - Beyond the Book: Making Ideas Happen

    Courtney Young asks author and Behance CEO Scott Belsky about how creative people can become more productive by getting organized, building a supportive community, and gleefully killing ideas.


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    by on Feb 26, 2011
    Scott Belsky has committed his professional life to help organize creative individuals, teams, and networks. He is the author of the national bestselling book Making Ideas Happen and is the founder and CEO of Behance, a company that develops products and services for creative industries.

    Scott talks about why it's so easy to come up with new ideas rather than finishing what we start and how we can break that cycle.
    About TEDx, x = independently organized event: In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.*

    Tuesday, January 24, 2012

    The Voice

                         

    Posted by Food For Thought -Daily Inspiration

    QUOTES


    "The future belongs to those
    who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

    Eleanor Roosevelt
    American First Lady


    "A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile
    the moment a single man contemplates it,
    bearing within him the image of a cathedral."  

    Antoine De Saint-Exupery



    "I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet. The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time."

    Jack London
    American Author


    "Dream as if you'll live forever...
    live as if you'll die today."

    James Dean




    Wednesday, January 18, 2012

    How Emotional Equations Can Change Your Life - Forbes

    How Emotional Equations Can Change Your Life - Forbes:
    ENTREPRENEURS


    How Emotional Equations Can Change Your Life


    Subscribe to my updates at Facebook.com/DanSchawbel.

    I recently spoke to Chip Conley, who has spoken at the prestigious TED Conference, is the author of Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success, and is the founder of Joie de Vivre Hospitality. Joie de Vivre Hospitality grew into America’s second largest boutique hotel company. He speaks around the world on how to find meaning at the intersection of business and psychology. In this interview, Chip talks about what emotional equations are, why they are important and how they can change your life for the better.

    What are emotional equations and what inspired you to write this book?

    I was CEO of the company I founded, Joie de Vivre Hospitality (the country’s 2nd largest boutique hotelier), for nearly 24 years. During the last decade, we went through two once-in-a-lifetime downturns. During the dot-com bust ten years ago, I felt like a gladiator and our team did a phenomenal job tripling in size during a difficult time. But, during this Great Recession, I felt more like a prisoner and I could see that my depressed state was having its impact on my team and even the company culture.

    I believe all leaders are CEO’s, Chief Emotions Officers, as leaders are the emotional thermostats for the groups they lead. When my emotional thermostat was low, I was reading Viktor Frankl’s landmark book, Man’s Search for Meaning, and I turned that into an equation so that I could use it as a mantra: Despair = Suffering – Meaning. Ultimately, I shared this equation with my top 80 leaders in the company and we started teaching equations on Anxiety, Disappointment, Happiness, and Authenticity in our corporate university. I was inspired to write the book since so few of us have ever been taught about the mystery of our emotions and how to make sense of them.

    What can math teach us about controlling our emotions?

    This decade feels like a milder, but still painful, version of the 1930s. What’s interesting about the Depression is that people looked for internal logic as a means to remedy their external chaos. The 30s brought us Norman Vincent Peale, Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow Rich), Viktor Frankl, the Serenity Prayer – all dedicated to providing some level of internal logic during a time when the world felt dangerous and difficult. Emotional Equations are perfectly suited for this era (they’re even short enough to be textable and tweetable) as they help people to understand the ingredients or emotional building blocks that create our feelings. The more we are conscious about what creates Regret or Envy, the more we can influence those ingredients and have some emotional mastery in our lives.

    Which equation helped you out the most when you were suffering?

    That Despair = Suffering – Meaning equation saved my life (I write about this in the book). Think of Suffering as the constant and Meaning as the variable in this equation. Suffering is ever present (it’s the first Noble Truth of Buddhism), especially in a harsh recession, but Meaning is what you make of it. When I was having a particular difficult day, I would need to ask myself, “What’s the learning or lesson in this?” Or, better yet, what kind of emotional muscles am I training in this emotional boot camp I’m living through?

    There’s a famous study of young women who grew up during the Depression. They compared these women later in life – who’d lost their husbands – with other women and they found that these women whose formative years had been the Depression were better able to handle the resiliency, independence, and courage necessary to become a widow. So, whether it’s compassion, humility, persistence, or curiosity – there’s some positive emotional power that may come out of this difficult time that can serve you for a lifetime.

    How can emotional equations make people more successful in the workplace?


    The truth is that most of us are very reactive with our emotions, but we aren’t always conscious of that. Yet, what we’re unconscious of often holds power over us. Daniel Goleman taught us 16 years ago that the most successful leaders have strong emotional intelligence and the foundation component of EQ is self-awareness. Emotional Equations helps people to understand their emotional patterns and reactivity such that they can exhibit more healthy and productive emotions in their work.



    How do we know when we can’t use an equation to make a change in our lives?

    These equations are meant to help people respond, not react to life, which can be helpful in the context of business when we want to use logic and reason in considering something. But, for some things in life – like the joy of seeing your baby born or falling in love – reacting is the most natural way to allow your emotions to gush just like they should. For me, I call this being emotionally fluent.

    It’s nice to be emotionally intelligent, but it’s valuable to be emotionally fluent. In other words, you may go to Paris and know this history of the French language and all its dialects, but if you aren’t fluent in actually speaking the language that knowledge isn’t serving you in a practical way. Emotional Equations provide practical benefit, but my suggestion is that people don’t labor too much over the logic of the equations.

    Dan Schawbel, recognized as a “personal branding guru” by The New York Times, is the Managing Partner of Millennial Branding, a full-service personal branding agency. Dan is the author of Me 2.0: 4 Steps to Building Your Future, the founder of the Personal Branding Blog, and publisher ofPersonal Branding Magazine




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