Thursday, November 29, 2012

Have Fun. Make Money. Change the World.

 
“Smile, breathe, go slowly.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

 


“There is no charge for awesomeness, or attractiveness.”

Po ~ Kungfu Panda



Life flies by. And the older we get the faster it seems to go.

There never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything done. Let alone squeek out a moment of peace for ourselves.

So with all of responsibilities and obligations is there something that can help us?

What can we do to not feel overwhelmed, overworked, or overtired?

Maybe it’s time for a different approach to life.


 

Source:
3 Keys To An Awesome Life From A Zen Master | Success For Life - Have Fun. Make Money. Change the World.

 Link:
http://ianpaulmarshall.com/3-keys-to-an-awesome-life-from-a-zen-master/




Thursday, October 25, 2012

How to be Happy in 12 Simple Steps


By SONJA LYUBOMIRSKY






STEP 1 - Show gratitude 

(* There's a lot more to gratitude than saying "thank you." Emerging research shows that people who are consistently grateful are happier, more energetic and hopeful, more forgiving and less materialistic. Gratitude needs to be practised daily because it doesn't necessarily come naturally.)


STEP 2 - Cultivate Optimism


STEP 3 - Avoid overthinking and social comparison

(* Many of us believe that when we feel down we should try to focus inwardly to attain self-insight and find solutions to our problems. But numerous studies have shown that overthinking sustains or worsens sadness.)


STEP 4 - Practice kindnessChewbaaka and Koya



STEP 5 - Nurture social relationships


STEP 6 - Develop coping skills


STEP 7 - Learn to forgive 

(* Forgiveness is not the same thing as reconciliation, pardoning or condoning. Nor is it a denial of your own hurt. Forgiveness is a shift in thinking and something that you do for yourself and not for the person who has harmed you. Research confirms that clinging to bitterness or hate harms you more than the object of your hatred. Forgiving people are less likely to be hostile, depressed, anxious or neurotic.


* Forgive yourself for past wrongs. Recognising that you too can be a transgressor will make you more empathetic to others. )


STEP 8 - Find more flow

(* "Flow" was a phrase coined by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in the 1960s. It means you are totally immersed in what you are doing and unaware of yourself. Happy people have the capacity to enjoy their lives even when their material conditions are lacking and even when many of their goals have not been reached.)


STEP 9 - Savour the day



STEP 10 - Commit to your goals 

(* People who strive for something personally significant, whether it's learning a new craft or changing careers, are far happier than those who don't have strong dreams or aspirations. Working towards a goal is more important to wellbeing than its attainment.)


STEP 11 - Take care of your soul

 (* A growing body of psychological research suggests that religious people are happier, healthier and recover better after traumas than nonreligious people. ...

* Find the sacred in ordinary life ...)

STEP 12 - Take care of your body

"The How of Happiness" Sonja Lyubomirsky - TalkRational



Sonja Lyubomirsky

link: http://lyubomirsky.socialpsychology.org/




 

Saturday, September 15, 2012

You are the master of your fate and you create your own happiness.


If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?  And if I am only for myself, then what am I?  And if not now, when?

- Hillel the Elder, 1st Century B.C.
 


 It's never the events that happen to us that make us disturbed, but our view of them.
Epictetus, 1st Century A.D.


Happiness and misery depend as much on temperament as on fortune.
- Francois de la Rochefoucauld, 17th Century


Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
- Abe Lincoln


Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.
- Leo Tolstoy


 To be in Hell is to drift; to be in Heaven is to steer.
- Geo. B. Shaw


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It is not that someone else is preventing you from living happily;
You yourself do not know what you want.  Rather than admit this,    
you pretend that someone is keeping you from excercising your liberty.
Who is this?  It is yourself.
- Thomas Merton, 1961

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I am resposible for the achievement of my desires.
I am responsible for my choices and acktions...
I am responsible for my personal happiness.
- Dr. Nathaniel Branden


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"I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have."

- Thomas Jefferson

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If you think you're free, there's no escape possible.

- Ram Dass

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Happiness is something you can work at.  It's a matter of identifying the things you do that get in the way of happiness,  and figuring out what positive activities you can do everyday to augment it.

- David Lykken, U of Minnesota

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Depressed people are caught in a  feedback loop in which distorted thoughts cause negative feelings, which then distort feelings further.

You can break the cycle by changing the thoughts.

A big part of cognitive therapy is training clients to catch the thoughts and  distortions and then find alternative and more accurate ways of thinking.


Over many weeks,the client's thoughts become more realistic.  The feedback loop is broken and the client's anxiety or depression abates.



- Johnathan Haidt, Psychologist and Happiness Researcher


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Friday, August 10, 2012

Define Success to properly set your compass on your single definite purpose

I found one day in school a boy of medium size ill-treating a smaller boy. I expostulated, but he replied: The bigs hit me, so I hit the babies; that's fair. In these words he epitomized the history of the human race.
- Bertrand Russell

“All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure. ”
― Mark Twain
 
"In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins
- not by strength but by perseverance."
- H. Jackson Brown 
 “Don't mistake activity with achievement.”
― John Wooden
 “Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.”
― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

 
“Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

“I want to do it because I want to do it. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be but a challenge to others.”
― Amelia Earhart

“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen

Friday, June 29, 2012

Find Your Focus

All beings are flowers
blossoming
In a blossoming universe.

by Soen Nakagawa
 As every divided kingdom falls, so every mind divided between many studies confounds and saps itself.
- Leonardo Davinci


A small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules.
-Anthony Trollope



7 Effective Habits of ADDults

1. Do what you're good at

2. Delegate what you're bad at

3. Connect your energy to a creative outlet

4. get "well enough" organized to achieve your goals

5. Take advice from people you trust

6. Keep in touch with a few close friends

7. Keep a positive outlook in making decisions and running your life.




Thursday, June 28, 2012

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

Source:

https://www.writers-online.co.uk/Home-Page.aspx




How to write a synopsis of your book or novel

Published on 28/09/2011

How to write a synopsis of your book or novel  
Your covering letter has made such a good impression that your publisher, agent or editor of choice has decided to take a closer look at your novel, but the first thing they'll look at is your synopsis or, for a non-fiction book, your book proposal. You already have some of their attention, but now you need to hold it so they want to find out more. Maintain that excellent first impression by delivering a synopsis the publisher just cannot resist.

So how do you start? Let’s take a look at what you should include. ‘The synopsis is the primary tool for fiction writers to inspire agents and publishers to read their manuscript,’ says professional publishing consultant Julia McCutchen. ‘Always write the synopsis in the present tense, and tell the whole story – including the ending.’

Fiction synopsis checklist
Julia advises you to answer the following key questions in your synopsis
• What is the story about?
• Who is/are the main character(s) and brief summary of the issue(s) they are facing
• What are they feeling?
• What’s driving them?
• Why are they acting in a certain way?
• What’s standing in their way?
• What is the setting, if appropriate, and include a taste of it

‘Include some dialogue to bring your synopsis alive but only if it feels appropriate,’ adds Julia. ‘Build excitement as you near the end by using shorter sentences and paragraphs.’

Your synopsis should be written in the third person. ‘I start in the same place as the story (not giving background to the main character or other characters) and summarise the main plot points and characters,’ says author Tamsyn Murray. ‘The synopsis should try to capture something of the writer’s voice – mine try to be fairly witty.’

Stewart Ferris, author and co-founder of Summersdale Publishers, says one paragraph per chapter is usually adequate, but obviously this depends on the length of your chapters. ‘As long as the synopsis fills one or two pages and no more then it’s the right length,’ he advises. ‘It’s not easy to distil your masterpiece down to a few hundred words unless you’re clear in your mind as to what the important themes and concepts are. Leave out all unnecessary detail and tantalise the editor with questions and hints that make them want to read the whole book to find out more.’

If you find it difficult to compile your synopsis, remember that even seasoned authors find it hard. ‘I’d find it easier to write a whole 100,000 word novel than do a synopsis,’ says Carole Matthews, an internationally bestselling author of numerous romantic comedy novels. However she has the following advice to make the process easier: ‘Make your synopsis as concise as possible. Outline the main story – all of it – including main conflict points. And don’t get side-tracked by sub-plots.’

Non-fiction book proposal checklist
For those who are submitting non-fiction manuscripts, the synopsis is replaced with a book proposal, as it includes many different sections of information.

Julia McCutchen advises that your non-fiction book proposal should include:
• title page (just title, subtitle and contact details)
• summary of content
• chapter outlines
• author details
• sales, marketing and promotional information
• length, specifications and delivery date (ie how long the finished manuscript will be, if there are any illustrations and when it will be delivered)
Submit your book proposal with your covering letter and sample chapters.  


  

 



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    Monday, June 25, 2012

    Robbie Burns: To A Mouse

    A sculpture of a mouse in the garden of the Robert Burns Birthplace Museum, Alloway
     
     
    TO A MOUSE
    ON TURNING HER UP IN HER NEST WITH THE PLOUGH, NOVEMBER, 1785
    by: Robert Burns (1759-1796)
        I
         
        EE, sleekit, cowrin, tim'rous beastie,
        Oh, what a panic's in thy breastie!
        Thou need na start awa sae hasty,
        Wi' bickering brattle!
        I was be laith to rin an' chase thee,
        Wi' murd'ring pattle!
         
        II
         
        I'm truly sorry man's dominion
        Has broken Nature's social union,
        An' justifies that ill opinion
        Which makes thee startle
        At me, thy poor, earth-born companion
        An' fellow-mortal!
         
        III
         
        I doubt na, whyles, but thou may thieve;
        What then? poor beastie, thou maun live!
        A daimen-icker in a thrave
        'S a sma' request;
        I'll get a blessin wi' the lave,
        And never miss't!
         
        IV
         
        Thy wee-bit housie, too, in ruin!
        Its silly wa's the win's are strewin!
        An' naething, now, to big a new ane,
        O' foggage green!
        An' bleak December's winds ensuin,
        Baith snell an' keen!
         
        V
         
        Thou saw the fields laid bare an' waste,
        An' weary winter comin fast,
        An' cozie here, beneath the blast,
        Thou thought to dwell,
        Till crash! the cruel coulter past
        Out thro' thy cell.
         
        VI
         
        That wee bit heap o' leaves an stibble,
        Has cost thee mony a weary nibble!
        Now thou's turn'd out, for a' thy trouble,
        But house or hald,
        To thole the winter's sleety dribble,
        An' cranreuch cauld!
         
        VII
         
        But, Mousie, thou art no thy lane,
        In proving foresight may be vain:
        The best-laid schemes o' mice an' men
        Gang aft a-gley,
        An' lea'e us nought but grief an' pain,
        For promis'd joy!
         
        VIII
         
        Still thou art blest, compared wi' me!
        The present only toucheth thee:
        But och! I backward cast my e'e,
        On prospects drear!
        An' forward, tho' I cannot see,
        I guess an' fear!
    "To a Mouse" is reprinted from English Poems. Ed. Edward Chauncey Baldwin & Harry G. Paul. New York: American Book Company, 1908.

     Source:
     http://www.poetry-archive.com/b/to_a_mouse.html



     Portrait of Robert Burns 
     Robert Burns by Alexander Nasmyth
    (By permission of the National Galleries of Scotland) 


    Wednesday, March 28, 2012

    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky | Fast Company

    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky | Fast Company


    Most Creative People in Business 2010: #73 Scott Belsky

    BY Danielle Sacks | 06-01-2010 | 5:48 PM

    Scott Belsky doesn't exactly advertise that he's the grandson of test-prep king Stanley Kaplan, but he has a lot in common with the man who launched a $4 billion industry by tutoring immigrants for the SAT. "He always used this term 'meritocracy,' " Belsky recalls. "He was always hoping the smartest people would go to college rather than the people who had the connections and wealth."


    Scott Belsky of Behance at Mashable Connect 2011 - YouTube

    Scott Belsky of Behance at Mashable Connect 2011 - YouTube

    Tuesday, March 27, 2012

    How-to Write a Great Business Vision Statement - YouTube

    How-to Write a Great Business Vision Statement - YouTube


    ploaded by alkamae on Feb 27, 2009

    Follow these guidelines, and use the vision statement formula to perfectly articulate your dream, your passion, and the direction you envision for your business.
    Category:

    Howto & Style

    Kevin Spacey on Being Successful

    Kevin Spacey on Being Successful - YouTube



    Being a big fan of Kevin Spacey it was a happy moment finding this video.